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After 27 years as a Funeral Director, I can't tell you how many times I've heard people attempt to "say something" to a grieving person to express their feelings of condolences. I once heard a sweet elderly lady try to comfort a mother who had just lost an infant after a long illnes, with these words. "Your baby is in a much better place now....I know how you feel, Ihad two miscarriages when I was young." The only place that young mother wanted her child was in her arms and no......the well-intentioned ladydidn't know exactly how she felt.
As many of us have experienced, it can be somewhat uncomfortable when a co-worker loses a loved one. What do you do? What should you say? We spend so much time at work, interacting with colleagues, that this unfortunate situation cannot be ignored to avoid an awkward conversation. Being there for your co-worker, offering a shoulder to lean on or simply being a good listener is a great start to show that you care. Here are more ways to show your support for your co-worker who has recently lost a loved one.
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Food is comfort when words are inadequate - Don't know what to say or what to do? Bring them a meal.
When we are feeling overwhelmed and emotional it's very comforting to know that people are thinking of us, wishing us well, want to help and comfort us. Offering a loving meal does just that.
After someone loses a loved one, not only are they going through the grieving process, but they are also faced with the task of planning a funeral. Often times, the person grieving will have a house full of guests that came into town for the visitation and the funeral. During this hectic and sad time, life becomes extra complicated as the grieving person tries to juggle all of these tasks while the reality is that they just lost a loved one. Having a family and/or out of town guests to feed, adds an additional challenge to the existing busy schedule.
There are many factors that are considered when deciding which type of service to have for a loved one. Culture, religion, beliefs, the wishes of the deceased and budget are important factors in this decision. Certain religions do not allow cremation, which makes having a burial service the clear choice.
Have you considered pre-planning your own funeral? It may seem like an odd, uncomfortable task but be confident in knowing that you are lessening the burden for your family members. When a loved one passes on, the person experiencing the loss begins the grieving process while being faced with many funeral and burial decisions. These decisions become a little easier if a prior conversation was had about the desired funeral arrangements but that is not always the case. When a funeral is pre-planned, you are able to make every decision for your own funeral so that, when
When a person loses a loved one, they can be overwhelmed with the planning of the funeral as well as accommodating out of town guests who traveled to the funeral. Although the grieving process usually begins immediately, the hardest part can come after the funeral and after everyone goes home.
Coping with grief is one of the hardest things a person has to do any time of the year, but during the Holidays it is particularly challenging. There are so many demands during the Holiday season with shopping, cooking, cleaning and socializing that it can just seem too big to handle. Coping with grief increases the weight of those demands tremendously. Here are some strategies to help get you through the most stressful time of the year.
One distinctive way to memorialize your loved one is to create a scholarship in their name. See the joy your gift makes in a student's academic life that will carry them on through the future. Each year that a student becomes eligible for the scholarship is a tribute to your loved one. Anyone can set up a scholarship fund and there are many different approaches. You can contact your local bank or credit union about opening an account to accept donations from the public. Scholarship funds are often set up and administered by a third party, such as a community fo